Do you need to change your attitude ?
Forgiveness may seem to be a strange thing to talk about when you are looking for
a cure to a phobia, but it is an essential attitude if you are to have complete
inner calmness. Forgiveness is not just a healthy attitude, but there may be people
who you need to forgive. If you are bearing any kind of grudge then the only
sufferer is you. Harbouring negative thoughts about anyone - including yourself,
is only debilitating for you - no-one else - so it's time to forget the wrongs
that others have done to you - and forget the mistakes that you have made - you
can't go back over them now - the clock only moves forwards.
So teach yourself to be forward looking and you will start to plan for the future
instead of responding to the past.
It may be that you remember the exact details of an incident that was the start
of your phobia - some people remember a balloon being burst very close to them
or a balloon that was burst as a punishment or during an argument - whatever the
situation, the bursting balloon may have become forever associated with the
negativity of the situation. It may have been an unfortunate accident, or it may
have been a nasty deliberate act - but whichever it was - and whoever was involved
- now is the time to forgive them - either for their error or for their belligerence
to continue to hold them responsible in any way, tends to relieve you of your
responsibility to yourself to rid yourself of this phobia. If it remains someone
elses fault then it is easy to assume that you can't do much about it - if you
forgive them for whatever part they appear to have played, then there remains
only one person who is responsible for continuing to feel badly about balloons
bursting... - you - so now you are in a position to do something about it.
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